It’s Friday night, you stare at your closet full of clothes with nothing to wear. The husband stands there taping his foot impatiently waiting, your girlfriends text you asking how much longer, or the kids scream, “come on MOM we’re hungry!” Everyone is ready to go, you tried on five different outfits, clothes spread out on the bed, shoes scattered on the floor, and you begin to say to your loved ones “five more minutes!”…sound familiar? Then it’s time to S.T.O.P.!
Stop, Think, Observe, and Proceed with a new mindset and develop a style that suits your current lifestyle. Here are eight ways to move from a style rut to sexy strut!
Look at Yourself and Love Yourself
Recently I experienced a style rut because I gained weight. I found myself saying some negative things about my body that made me feel I didn’t deserve to look good. Who cares what I look like, I’m fat so it doesn’t matter. WHOA Leslie, pump the brakes! I stopped, thought, observed, and proceeded with taking off all of my clothes and staring in a full length mirror. I hugged myself and said “I love you, Leslie.” I said I love you to all of my body parts…my thighs, my stomach, my breasts, my face, my hair, each finger and toe. Soon I started to cry, I couldn’t believe how heavy my heart felt. I needed to release those hurtful thoughts about my body so I could begin a transformation!
Create a Vision Board
Who loves fashion magazines? Who loves Pinterest? To change up the wardrobe, you need inspiration! After I loved on myself, I decided to purchase a few fashion magazines and cut out the looks I found interesting. Even if I didn’t think it would work, I cut it out anyway and pasted the looks on a poster board. I did the same with Pinterest! I created a Style board and pinned some fun looks. I felt my creativity soar as a few ideas about my new look entered my mind. Thanks to this exercise, I’m excited about shopping again!
Clean Out Your Closet
I’ve got my inspiration, I’m super excited, now I’m ready to shop; right? Not so fast, I took a few hours, yes I said hours, to clean out my closet first. Try on EVERYTHING; if it’s too tight, must go! If it’s too big, must go! Be careful about holding on to that outfit “you may get back in when you lose weight.” It could derail your progress. Donate what is in good condition, throw away what cannot be donated (look for clothes recycling centers in your neighborhood), and keep what fits and continues to bring you joy. I didn’t do this in one day; I separated it in two sessions, clothes first and shoes and accessories second. I feel wonderful, my closet is clean and I am that much closer to hitting the mall!
Set a Budget
Some end up in a style rut because we neglect our fashion budget! I tried to torture myself stating I refuse to buy new clothes until I lose some weight. I set myself up for failure in a constant state of denial; my physical weight did not matter, my mental state told me I was not worthy. After another “I love you, Leslie” session, I took a moment to review my budget and noticed I spent too much money on Starbucks, mid-week trips to the convenience store, and eating out. I committed to moving those dollars to my fashion budget and finally made a shopping trip!
I did the simple things with my limited budgeted such as add some accessories to the outfits I kept. I found cute belts, scarves, jewelry, and colorful shoes to jazz up my current love for black and white clothes. Once comfortable taking time to rebuild my closet, it gave me courage to take more fashion risks.
Remix an Existing Outfit
Break out the sewing machine and call the seamstress! This is not just adding an accessory, it’s changing an existing piece to give it a new look. For example, I took a long dress and cut it off to make a short shift dress or take a long sleeve top and cut the sleeves at the elbow or shoulder! Add a new sweater to that top with your jeans and you have successfully remixed an outfit!
Try One New Trend
Remember the vision board you created? Hopefully you added some outfits you weren’t sure about so you can take a fashion risk. I tend to be conservative in my wardrobe choices so this time I tried the ripped, distressed jeans look. Since I felt pretty confident, I also chose a cold shoulder top that made me feel better about showing my arms. Two cute trends translated in a new look that is now one of my favorite outfits!
My final tip changed the GAME for my style update! I can pay a fee, (most are $20 – $25) someone will customize a selection of items based on my size, style, and budget, I receive a box at my door, try on my items in the comfort of my home, pay for what I like, and ship back the rest in a pre-paid envelope! Best of all, I don’t have to leave the house!! Can you feel my excitement?! This experience was so amazing I need a new post to discuss it. You will have to come back next week when I do my subscription box breakdown! As always, share your thoughts below, what do you do when you’re in a style rut? Don’t forget to share, tweet, or pin this post!